The power of adjectives in your relationship

You can attract more bees with honey than vinegar, so the saying says--but does it really work? Any kind of relationship will have disagreements (and this relationship does not have to be romantic in nature. It can be with a parent, boss, sibling, etc.), but it may not always be best to try to strong-arm someone into being the person you would like for them to be.

So what do you do? Hypnosis? Bribery? Blackmail?


None of the above. But you too, can persuade like a politician!

How about subtle persuasion and harnessing the power of adjectives to draw on the person's desire to be liked and admired.

This concept is simple:

1. Think about an adjective that describes a characteristic you would like someone to posses. I.e. generous, open-minded, kind, etc.
   
2. Use the adjective to describe the person while in a conversation with the person
   
3. Stand back and be in awe of how they try and fit into that personality characteristic you have just used to describe them.

An example:

Let's say you're feeling a little neglected by your mate and would like some more attention and affection.

Here's what you say:

"I love how loving and affectionate you are towards me"

Then sit back and watch your mate shower you with attention.

How about another example?

Your mom is unwilling to accept any of your ideas and it's difficult to get her to see your point of view.

I love how open-minded you are.

In the next few weeks you’ll notice your mom becoming more open minded and willing to accept your ideas.

To sum up.....

I can't stress how powerful this technique is.

Don't just read this article, think about how interesting it is, and move on with your life while some of your relationships still need improving. TRY IT today-start labeling someone you know today with a positive characteristic-you will notice them trying to mold themselves to fit your description in hopes that you will show your appreciation and acceptance.

And YOU will enjoy the benefits of their changed behavior!

Try it-and let us know how it goes!